A powerful distinction I heard Steve Chandler say recently is that of “Coming From” versus “Getting To.” It is amazingly powerful. Let me explain.
A way to think about this is to compare resolutions versus goals or intentions. With resolutions you are “resolving” to “come from” rather than “get to” as you do with goals, intentions, dreams, wish lists, etc.
However, with goals, intentions or anything like this the problem is that you perceive things as as always out there, in the future as something you have to “get to.”
In this thought pattern we are somewhat disempowered or disconnected from the power in us because what we think we want is out there is some distant future and, of course, we don’t have what we want yet. Therefore I am deficient because I don’t have it yet.
Resolutions, on the other hand, are something that come from inside you. ie; “I am internally resolved to do something” or “I resolve to complete 10 pieces of artwork for my new series” These are things you generate inside you and YOU take them to the world.
An example of this might be the statement, “I resolve to have sales over $50,000 of my art this year.” Well, in order to do this you make a resolution. You can create daily process goals to re-enforce this. Such as, “I will do one marketing activity a day for 1 hour a day minimum” and you build this into your day as a practice.
But see the difference. The power comes from inside you, from your resolve. You are “coming from” a place of power not wishing or hoping or intending someday “it” will come to me. How do you know? because you created it this way. You are “living” your resolution daily.
So many people are beholden to faulty thinking. They flock to seminars, buy courses, buy books, consult others because they want to “attract” something – be it more money, a better relationship, a new career, whatever.
It’s all really very negative and stressful because it re-affirms and confirms, psychologically, that I am missing something and the bigger the thing we are trying to attract the bigger the bigger the “hole” or space is inside of me psychologically.
If you don’t have truly have your resolutions broken down into a true resolutions, in other words, a place I can come from today then I don’t have the power. It’s not in me. It’s outside. It’s missing.
The question is, “What kind of day would I have to lead in order to produce the conditions I would love to have” so you can do them today. You don’t have to put them out to some distant future and hope that they find you. The power is inside you. It always has been.
So ask yourself the question, “Where do I want to come from? Do I want to come from a place of prosperity, productivity, creativity, energy, etc. and what activities do I need to engage with daily so my outcomes happen naturally with much less stress.”
Victims tend to have a habit of just the opposite. They are always looking for a place to “get to.” ie; “I don’t have it yet but really need/want it” It really is self sabotaging behavior and not something we want to engage in.
So the final question is, “Who do you resolve to BE (in your next project, state or condition) and how are you going to be to create the behaviors to make it happen?”
Image above:
Will Cotton
“Custard Cascade” 2001
Oil on linen, 108″ x 144″
